As I was reading the site www.self-confidence.co.uk/social_skill.html I thought to myself that I've commited many social mistakes in my entire life. Besides eye contacting, there's more 5 rules you need to aprehend:
1. To remain relaxed - this can be very difficult specially when the person who you're talking to appears to be powerful, arrogant, important or whatever.
2. Listening skill - very often I get distracted when someone's talking to me, so in some point I don't agree with the "make some sounds in order to demonstrate to the speaker that you are paying attention" part, because I may be not listening to what he/she's saying but instinctively I "say Yes" with my head.
3. Interest in others situation - well I think that this comes with empathy to others, so I don't agree that this is a social skills; maybe "pretend" to be interested is a social skill... don't know.
4. Ability to build rapport - the same situation as the other, but in this case the people in case have something in common.
5. Knowing when and how much to talk about yourself - yes, it's kind of annoying when someone keeps nagging about their dramas and doesn't gives you any opportunitie to talk about YOU.
Summing up, it's essential to "practice" some social skills and prove that we're respectful and that we respect others in order to make important connections or trades, aplying for job and to make/keep friendships; people who miss some social skills are sometimes misunderstood.
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